It never fails that when women criticize other women for behavior that is demeaning or oppressive its taken as a personal insult. No matter how the language is coached or how constructive and useful the criticism is.
Here’s how this works in reality:
Person with privilege is blind to how the world unfairly gives them advantage. So when its pointed out to them that hey things are a lot worse down here and hey you kind of aren’t helping, its taken personally.
Then the person pointing it out is ganged up on (generally), told they are the problem because what they’re doing is creating “horizontal hostility” and they are being “divisive”.
Its rarely acknowledged that whats actually hostile and divisive is the behavior and chauvinism of the advantaged party.
You see, pointing out someone’s behavior or oversight isn’t hostility, and isn’t it great when its generally impoverished/black women who are the “hostile” ones and isn’t it great that there’s generally no recourse as the women criticized usually hold all the keys to the doors of activism anyway?