The liberal/sexpositive/thirdwave feminist attempt to portray feminists who believe and demonstrate that the problems women face are a direct result of structures which seek to discourage, silence and prevent women from seeking their rightful place in the world as victims still hasn’t ceased.
I encourage all women out there, if you’re in any way involved in thinking about sexual politics, MAKE SURE YOU ARE ANONYMOUS. If you’re going to talk about things that may have happened to you because you are a woman, make sure these fucks won’t be able to go run to places you volunteer, organizations you’re a part of, family members with their bullshit about how you need mental health intervention because you’re just not over your trauma (as if it ever is something thats just gotten over).
I got my start in internet feminism in an unlikely place, youtube. vlogging. There are many examples of women on this male dominated space that embody this “power feminist” mentality and even openly quote from Naomi Wolf’s book “Fire With Fire”. Two Examples are ZOMGitsCriss and Divinity33372 who openly dismiss and vilify women who they view as having “victim mentalities” (ie feminists). Now whats interesting is that both of these women have admitted publicly to having either been raped or been victim to attempted sexual assault. To quote ZOMGitsCriss “If you have a victim mentality then you will be a victim”. In her blog she writes openly about having a man she dated attempt to rape her, did this happen because she had a victim mentality or because she was a woman? Do these horrors happen to women because our thoughts are wrong? Or do they happen to us because of our biology?
The divide between liberals and radicals is obvious when one examines that particular quote. Liberals believe that change happens through us thinking nicer thoughts and radicals know change happens because we put our muscle where our mouth is and change MATERIAL reality.
But the whole point of this post is this: I don’t want your fucking power. I don’t want to kill or be killed, I don’t want to dominate or be dominated. I don’t want to compartmentalize my experiences so that I can get through the day reliving them with every choice I make to use sexuality for attention, for money, for love. Thats the difference. Call feminists victims if you will but it doesn’t change the fact that we’re actually just choosing our choices and if choosing to be as bad as a patriarchal man is is the best choice, we choose otherwise.