We are taught to value the ideal of hope. That mythical concept which implies that we lack all agency to create new and better alternatives, that our lives rely on the whim of those who are powerful be they god or man.
We are also taught that our boundaries are meaningless. The invisible lines which we set up for play and love have no tangible meaning because we can be taught to desire new and different forms of play that will make us more interesting and exciting for those who would want to play on the fields that are our bodies stretched before them.
But agency implies we have a choice, a set of options that aren’t drastically stacked for or against us. As women we don’t have the ability to exercise agency free from this not-so-subtle coercion. Try not conforming and valuing yourself enough to say no to something and stand firm in it. See what happens to you.
We develop our ability to exercise agency when we turn away from the nonsensical choices laid before us and choose not to opt into it any longer. We develop our ability to exercise agency when we develop zero tolerance for those who would abuse us, shame us, hurt us and maim us.