“Slut Shaming” is Bullshit

Okay so I agree with the concept that women shouldn’t be shamed for having sexual feelings or desires, duh.  But thats not what its used to describe in actuality.

You see, faux feminist liberal hedonists use the term to slander anyone who speaks out against the sex industry because its all about you know, shaming women who for lack of real choices enter into a job where they can capitalize on their sexuality which men view as for sale anyway whether officially on the market or not.

But anyway, whats great about being a slut anyway?  Is the purpose of feminism to liberate women into being willful whores?  Is that what its about?  Or is it about transcending that dichotomy entirely?  You see, an individual has every right to sleep around all they want and behave in whatever manners they see fit as long it doesn’t cross a certain line but this idea that we all have to affirm other people’s shitty choices is wrong.

This applies to both males and females and everything in between.  Being sexually promiscuous is not healthy and not something to find pride in.  You have every right to engage your own body in self destructive behavior but its not my duty to affirm you in that.

This is the essence of being what I’ve come to call an “auntie-sex” feminist.  We’re like the older aunts who give you down to earth, sometimes offensive advice and speak the truth to you because deep down its coming from a place of love and honesty.

 

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11 responses to ““Slut Shaming” is Bullshit

  1. I appreciate this post (and so many others like it) and its targetting of the so-called “sex-positivism” that, as you’ve so rightly pointed out again and again, often becomes collaborative rather than progressive. This whole “slut” equates “feminism” fad is something that has always bugged me, and feels like a throw-back to the patriarchal “sexual revolution” that the 1968 radical feminists critiqued. One step forward two steps back… My partner feels like this whole “slut=feminist” fad is a white middle-class woman sort of thing, since she’s never really encountered it in the woman of colour feminist circles she’s involved with.

    • I know exactly what you mean by that. Its totally white-centric when you think about it. Historically white women are prized property, the kind of property you turn into a wife so for them to be “subversive” they adopt this “slut” label and play around with it, never acknowledging the historical forcing of women of colour into that role.

      Something for me to mull over I guess.

      Love your blog btw, thanks for including me as a comrade.

    • Slut is a deragatory word used towards sexual women, and maybe we felt like ‘taking it back’ to show your lack of power over us. Feminism is not about promiscuous behavior, its about equality and choice. Its about a woman having the right to decide what she wants with her own body and feeling free to act on it. Its about the fact that men are still praised for sexual conquest, while women are shamed for it.

  2. Fantastic Perfeccctttion as usual. I shall share this because it’s way too awesome.

  3. I completely agree with this post. And, really, not only is being a slut bad for the slut in general as it exposes her to disease and pregnancy, it’s bad for women as a class, which is what feminists (and not just the radical ones) are supposed to be fighting in the first place. I hate that feminism has been diluted into a movement for individuals when it was always supposed to be about females as a class.

    I have to say, too, that “auntie-sex” is the cutest.

  4. Brilliant and inspiring post. Thanks very much.

  5. I hate the term ‘slut-shaming’, and I’m soooo glad to see someone else calling it out. I wrote about it last year: http://laurelin.wordpress.com/2009/04/17/the-power-of-words-iv/

  6. People who often accuse others of ‘slut-shaming’ always seem to come from an extremely male-oriented perspective, whether they be men or not. Where men will say “All that feminism stuff is great, except where it criticizes what I like about the status quo…” and women will say “…the role I play in the status quo . Either way, this is a patriarchal point of view. And considering the level of immaturity involved, these people are an obviously in need of some “auntie” figures to tell them what’s what.

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  8. I agree with this post! Being promiscuous is nothing to be proud of. It’s a dangerous, self-destructive behavior, just like smoking, heavy drinking, drug abuse, etc.

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