Advice for Adversaries

As much as I detest the crap I’ve had flung at me from the “sex worker activists” on the internet, I have to say I’m disappointed in how much they hurt themselves.  Lets be clear here : No one in terms of feminist discussions on prostitution want to see prostitutes abused, exploited, imprisoned, murdered or without basic human rights.  The issue to feminists is that there are too many people in this world (even one is too many) engaged in prostitution that don’t want to be.  The majority of prostitutes are women and the majority of johns are men.  Men are the dominant sex in society and women are an oppressed underclass.  Women’s sexual labor and reproductive labor have been stolen from them by men for thousands of years, and prostitution is one of the ways it has been stolen from them.  We don’t think that it is possible to remove sexism and opppression from something that has its roots in the subordination of women to men.

So how do the sex worker activists and “sex positive” feminists hurt their own cause?

1) Assume that all those who oppose the idea of sex work are hostile and unsympathetic to what you have to go through.  Deny their personal life experience and very real concern for the safety and protection of those involved in the sex trade.

2) Talk about rights in the present tense, and not the future.  If you are a prostitute and a blogger online its probably the case that you are doing something illegal.  You do not have the “right” to break the law.

3) Do not force “dialogue”.  Some of us have personal trauma related to prostitution and resent hearing people talk about it in ways that portray it as something empowering for CERTAIN women.  We also resent the comments that people who can’t hack it shouldn’t become prostitutes.  People become prostitutes because they lack other options generally, probably even you.  Its not anyone’s place to judge whether or not someone should or should not be involved in this industry when thats the case for a good deal of the people in it.

4) Do not sexually degrade those people who aren’t down with prostitution, it just makes you look insecure.

5) Do not forge alliances with men who throw around misogynistic slurs on a consistent basis and show open contempt for women in general.  This is particularly odd when it comes from those “sex worker activists” who are supposedly “feminists”.

6) Not everything is about YOU.  When Feminists share information about people harmed in prostitution don’t ATTACK THEM for it.  You should be the first ones to support them for standing against violence against prostitutes.  Is your cause to harass feminists or win rights for sex workers?

7) Become distracted by attacking and harassing a few people online who merely feel that prostitution should never be something that anyone has to do, that its undignified and inherently oppressive when its NOT feminists who are out there murdering prostitutes, raping prostitutes, creating prostitutes, or stigmatizing them.

Many of us were THERE once.


14 responses to “Advice for Adversaries

  1. “7) Become distracted by attacking and harassing a few people online who merely feel that prostitution should never be something that anyone has to do, that its undignified and inherently oppressive when its NOT feminists who are out there murdering prostitutes, raping prostitutes, creating prostitutes, or stigmatizing them.”

    This, this, this times a million!

  2. Make a video about this.

    We need to teach these fuckers how to argue.

    So fucking depressing.

  3. I just had an argument with a pro-porner that involved my adversary asking me if I’d ever had good sex. What that has to do with the widespread rape and abuse of women prostitution and pornography I have no idea. I think I was meant to respond by talking in great detail about my sexlife, including scientific diagrams and video footage.

    Apparently objecting to sexual violence means you’re not getting any.
    Candidate for the covetted ‘epic fail’ award, methinks.
    *head desk*

    • Ugh. Indeed, to the sex poz/male-centric mind, anyone who doesn’t want them to have a wank at the expense of exploited and abused women is anti-sex. They just refuse to believe that there is any correlation between their actions and negative consequences for other people, because look, it’s fun, they like it! Oops. Women aren’t people. I forgot. We’re holes, remember? For dicks? The sex poz mentality cannot exist without that basic assumption.

      Time for Hulk rage.

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  5. Welp laurelin…if piv actually IS sexual violence, and I think it pretty clearly is, and commodifying it doesnt cure it of that…then objecting to sexual violence IS objecting to piv. And since the sex-pozzies and all mainstream thinkers I mean TALKERS believe that piv equals sex…viola, you are now sex- negative.

    Only about a dozen or so things with their reasoning, doesnt stop them from thinking themselves right. See my last couple posts on piv for more on that.

    Here by way of berryblades place.

  6. HA! the prostitution and sandwiches guy? he said he found it while looking for some “transgender” stuff. i literally just found his video response to me today, and posted it up at my place. thanks for reading.

  7. Hey Nuke,

    I’m glad that our Aussie is making videos. RoE!

  8. 3) So because some of you had a traumatic experience with prostitution, others can’t talk about how they have found it empowering?

    i don’t deny that sex-slavery and abuse goes on in the sex-worker industry, but let’s get real here, it doesn’t involve you. you’re a white, middle-class girl with a comfortable life, so who the hell are you to tell actual sex-workers how to feel about themselves or what to find empowering?

    you strike me as a rebel without a cause.

    • Well thank you for telling me what my race, class and comfortability of life have been since you really fucking know.

      No, I’m not middle class nor have I had a comfortable life.

      Prostitution isn’t empowering. Having real agency is.

    • I wish I had £1 for every time a sex-‘positive’ used the phrase ‘experience’ when what they mean is ‘rape’ or ‘torture’! I’d be well rich.

  9. Since when is an experience with prostitution anything *but* “traumatic”?

    Those of us who don’t “act” traumatized, or think we are traumatized, are either compartmentalizing or have just convinced ourselves that violence is all we’re “for.”

    This is what I’ve learned from knowing myself and other prostituted women.

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