dedgurlcingztheblooze has had a run of mental and creative energy running through her the past week. She’s made many amazing blog entries that pose very interesting questions and if anyone reading this blog doesn’t read hers, please go there and check it out.
Her last post can be said to inspire this one, but I wouldn’t call it a response because I already practically typed a blog post in her comments…
When I think of kowtowing to dick I think of perhaps your typical sexpos feminist who aligns themselves more often with chauvinist men than other feminists because of perhaps their own unchallenged misogyny. For example I think of a particular video on youtube which many sex pos feminists favorited which showed my face photoshopped onto a woman’s body being violently fucked doggy-style by a bald black man. I’ve spoken somewhat openly about being a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and I’ve alluded to having been raped as an adult but that isn’t enough for these women to in their crusade against me, support men attacking me in the most misogynistic of ways. They are kowtowing to dick because thats what their sex positivism causes them to do. They have to inevitably stand in some way against the survivors of male sexual violence because they support the type of sexuality which it is based on.
That is a sexuality where men are on top and women are there for one thing only, to have our identities completely consumed by men in the act of coitus.
Kowtowing to dick means that as a woman, you’re maintaining a man’s ego at the expense of other women. That you’re validating his misogyny, his sexism, his bullying and blindness of his own privilege. You’re not educating him, you’re enabling him.
What I put forward is cooperating with men. Many men are our allies as feminists and those are the men who when challenged about their own socialization, their own privilege do not attack and bully and dismiss and gaslight the feminist(s) who they have a disagreement with.
Its a mans world but not all of them have it that easy. Race, nationality, sexuality and economic class all play their part in keeping men down. Many men are our allies and winning them over to supporting the feminist movement, and thereby their own liberation from masculinity is a necessity if we’re ever to move on to the important task of tearing this shit down.